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This May Cleft Friends is celebrating 10 Years! Whoop! Whoop! If you or your loved one is cleft affected feel free to email your photo and story to us at info@cleftfriends.co.za. We want to share encouraging stories and create awareness about cleft lip and palate in South Africa. You are not alone!

This post is dedicated to Joel Brave Cullis who turned 10 years old yesterday 14 May 2019. A boy who has a strong will, determination and who is going to go far in life. He is our champion. He is in Grade 4 and is writing his first exams this term. It feels like we are writing Grade 4 exams too with all the revision and studying we are doing at the moment.  Joel made the U/11 A Rugby team at his school this year, something that impacted his life greatly. He was overcome that kids had said he wouldn’t even make the C or D teams and that he didn’t belong in the A team. Every time he came home and said he was still in the running for the A team and his name was called out, hope started to rise in his heart. The day he came home and said he had made the team it took him a full day to comprehend what that meant and that he was good enough. When Joel puts his mind to something he does it with all his might. On the rugby field we can see when his head is in the game or not and when it is in the game he shines.

Photo Credit: Abigail Sweeney

To a large degree we thought Joel wouldn’t battle with being bullied or teased as he was born with a cleft palate and not a cleft lip and doesn’t have a scar on his face. However he does sound nasal and when he has a cold he sounds extra nasal. Kids can be very direct and often ask him why he sounds “weird”. We have this discussion on an ongoing basis that the kids who say the word “weird” are misinformed that he sounds nasal not weird. We encourage him that kids are teased everyday about all sorts of things some have freckles, others have ears that are bigger or hair that is too red etc. From a parenting perspective it is hard to back off and allow him to fight is own battles but we know that empowering him to cope with bullying is better than fighting his battles for him; He will walk away with a better feeling of success because he did it on his own. We have on occasion contacted his teachers to discuss certain incidents when Joel has asked us to. He is in an amazing school that has zero tolerance for bullying and he knows he has teachers who are there to look out for anyone who may feel isolated or bullied. We feel that this is his story to tell one day and so can only guide and love him from where we stand. We are told that kids affected by clefts often feel like they have a permanent cold, we can relate to this as Joel is old enough to communicate what he is experiencing and how he feels.

He is due to see the ENT for a check-up and we are sure this will clear up the gunk in is nasal passages and alert us of any concerns. To date he has had 5 sets of grommets. I emailed Speech Therapist Georgia Jammine re his nasality and she wrote back saying the following (I’ve included this as sharing is caring and maybe this will help another family affected by clefts):

“The most common reason for nasal speech in a child with cleft palate is velopharyngeal insufficiency i.e. a soft palate that is too short to reach the back wall of the throat, in order to close off the nose from the mouth during the production of pressure consonants (p, b, t, d, k, g, s, z, sh, zh, f, v, th).  The best way to check the length of the soft palate and its function during speech is by means of a video x-ray (videofluoroscopy) or by endoscopy. If the palate is indeed short, then obviously Speech Therapy cannot make it longer. That would require surgery. Only if  the nasality is inconsistent, i.e. if the soft palate manages to reach sometimes, although not always, and Speech Therapy help to make the child aware of what he is doing on the ‘good’ sounds, so that he can do the same on the other sounds.”

Georgia has specialized in cleft lip and palate and welcomes questions should you want to bounce something off her re your child’s cleft experience and speech: georgia@jammine.com

Once he has had his ENT check-up we will revisit our local Speech Therapist and Plastic Surgeon to follow up on Joel’s nasality. The best advice we were given re clefts was that it is a journey. Up until now we as his parents have been steering the ship re his check-ups with the cleft team and it is refreshing to have his voice in the conversation. Joel asked us the other day how he can stop sounding nasal and he wants to go for the check-ups. It’s a whole new experience having his voice in the picture re his cleft care. We are grateful we have taught him to ask questions.

Looking back over the past ten years it’s hard to find the right words to fully describe the gratitude we have experienced on our cleft journey as a family. We never planned to get on this journey however this journey happened and we continue to overcome and make the best of the ride. In the beginning we wanted to focus on our own journey and move on with life and we are so glad we didn’t. We are glad we dug deep and reached out and wanted other families to know they are not alone. We have written our story so many times and feel it is best said in the parent guide on the Cleft Friends website on pages 6 and 7 you are most welcome to read it here: http://www.cleftfriends.co.za/cleft-lip-palate-parent-guide/

Closing the gap!

Heléna & Matthew


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This May Cleft Friends is celebrating 10 Years! Whoop! Whoop! If you or your loved one is cleft affected feel free to email your photo and story to us at info@cleftfriends.co.za. We want to share encouraging stories and create awareness about cleft lip and palate in South Africa. You are not alone!

This story has been sent to us by one of the most courageous moms on the Cleft Friends team. We can say this with full confidence that Nelissa Xotyeni has not only overcome the challenges faced with having a baby affected by cleft lip and palate but continues to overcome challenges. It is suspected that her daughter, Amyoli, might have Mosaic Down Syndrome too. Amyoli’s full diagnosis is still being made and so at the age 5 years old we celebrate each milestone with Nelissa as Amyoli grows and develops at her own pace. If this article reaches anyone who can relate to Nelissa’s lived experience with Amyoli please feel free to contact her directly on Whatsapp 082 369 6781. Other organizations in South Africa who can shed more light on genetic disorders and rare diseases are Genetic Alliance South Africa and Rare Diseases South Africa.

“Amyoli Khazimla Xotyeni was born on the 25th August 2013 at 08:23 at Greenacres Hospital, Port Elizabeth.  She was born with a cleft lip and palate.  I had never heard of it before in my life and we had not seen it in the scans before birth, so we were not prepared emotionally for anything.  But due to God’s graciousness, I decided to deliver in Port Elizabeth, where my mum was and my hometown is.  In East London, where I work, there was no good structure for cleft support, to my knowledge at the time, in comparison to Port Elizabeth. 

So right after delivery, my doctor immediately explained what my daughter had and said that a plastic surgeon would come and see me to explain what cleft lip and palate is and the journey that we would embark on.  She also had a birth anomaly called, urachus cyst.

So my first lesson started that day, and since that day we have been on this journey, going strong.  We have weekly sessions of Occupational Therapy which we started in the month of July 2015.  We started Physiotherapy after Amyoli’s first birthday, on the 25th August 2014.  

In 2015 we went to see a Dermatologist for the eczema she had on her body and face. The doctor noticed linear marks on Amyoli’s body and that consultation was the longest I have ever had with a doctor, because he was paging through his research dermatologist books and research sites, and also examined Amyoli’s body, besides the eczema, he noticed something he termed as being “whorled nevoid hypermelanosis” on Amyoli’s body which is a pigmentation disorder.  When we were in Port Elizabeth about a month later for a check-up, we brought the aforementioned to our Paediatrician’s attention who indicated that there is a high possibility that Amy may have a genetic disorder that the initial test, on her birthday, did not show.  There was also speculation of some sort of mosaicism, big words with no confirmation.  It would be great to understand what may have caused Amy’s cleft lip and palate, her brain atrophy (yes we had head scan the previous year in June, whilst Amy was in hospital for chest infection) and her delayed gross and fine motor development. 

In 2016 we saw a Geneticist who dismissed autism from Amyoli as well as the dismissal of Cerebral Palsy.  She then indicated that we need to do an EEG (Electroencephalographic), which we did, this showed that Amyoli does not have any sign of epilepticforme activity in her brain. We are now left with the skin biopsy for chromosome activity.

We have had the Eelctroencephalographic screen, and thankfully Amyoli shows no sign of any sort of seizures.  That is clear.  We still have to go for a skin biopsy in an attempt to confirm the initial recognition of skin disorder that our Dermatologist has seen. 

My daughter is 5 turning 6 in August 2019. She has started crawling and moving around the house.  Crawling, can you believe it?!  This is a milestone we have celebrated with her.

Our cleft journey is slow paced as we move as our doctor guides us, we will get there. Amyoli and I have attended 2 sessions of Alternative and Augmentative Communication sessions and continue to try communicate with each other.  We still don’t know how this will progress in the long run. Amyoli is at the brink of wanting to walk which is so rewarding and wonderful to watch. Our Geneticists suspects that she might have Mosaic Down Syndrome.  But we shall have a diagnosis soon.

There is a positive and constant change in Amyoli each day.  She is very playful and very happy go lucky child, who is independent in her play time most of the time. She is a strong-willed and determined little girl who inspires those dear to her daily.”

Nelisa Xotyeni


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This May Cleft Friends is celebrating 10 Years! Whoop! Whoop! If you or your loved one is cleft affected feel free to email your photo and story to us at info@cleftfriends.co.za. We want to share encouraging stories and create awareness about cleft lip and palate in South Africa. You are not alone!

“It’s a girl! Those words changed my parent’s lives forever, after having three boys they were eagerly awaiting the arrival of their baby girl. In the days before scans it was a guessing game every time. My father loved to tell the story of how he chose my name. As a young man he loved movies and while watching a movie he fell in love with the name of one of the female characters “Madge”. He knew immediately that would be his daughter’s name.” says Madge. The name Madge means “Pearl. Child of Light” a meaning that is true for this special lady who is a beacon of light in her community.

“I was born with a unilateral cleft lip and palate with a deformity of the nose. I had a gaping hole where my nose and upper lip was supposed to be. So was it love at first sight for my dad and me? According to my mom, when he saw me for the first time my dad kissed me full on the mouth! The first thing my dad did was kiss that hole, sealing the deal. It was love at first sight.

My mom was told that feeding me would be a challenge. Apparently I was only comfortable with a spoon, so for the first three months of my life my mom fed me with a spoon and syringes. According to my mom I was the biggest, healthiest and prettiest baby she had. I had my first operation to repair my lip when I was three months old. After that I was able to drink from a normal bottle. By the time I was a year old my parents took me back to the doctor to test my speech, I had started walking from the age of 9 months and was a chatty toddler. To my parents surprise the doctor said I did not need speech therapy as I was doing so well. I had my next operation to repair my nose when I was 6 years old. I was a happy and content little girl. I had no idea what the doctors were doing when they operated on me or even why it was being done. I didn’t fully comprehend that I had been born with a cleft lip and palate I just knew I needed to have an operation. My parents had raised me with the same values and care that they raised my brothers. I didn’t see myself as “different”.

It wasn’t until when I was 9 years old and one of my teachers called me to the front of the class and said “Madge is different”. She probably intended well but my world crashed as I did not know how I was different. I went home that day and had a long look at myself in the mirror and at my cleft scar on my lip and the shape of my nose. This moment in my life was emotionally traumatic and led to a low self-esteem as a young woman.

Unlike other girls my age I did not spend much time in front of a mirror faffing about trying out make-up or even dreaming about boyfriends. I avoided the mirror, I could not stand looking at my face. I spent my days dreaming about plastic surgery and I convinced myself that that’s what would solve all my problems. At the age of 17 I underwent my third corrective surgery to my nose. I remember waking up in hospital in such pain and discomfort. I had placed an unrealistic expectation on my surgery and couldn’t wait for my “new life” post-surgery with a perfectly straight nose and no scars to begin. To my shock and utter disappointment I still looked exactly the same!

I prayed the Serenity Prayer “God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change…” This was my first step to accepting the fact that I was born with a cleft lip and palate. I chose to start accepting my cleft and to start living life. I told the doctor I did not want any more surgeries, this is a decision I don’t regret. I have made a choice to willingly embrace who I am in every way and that includes the fact that I was born with a cleft lip and palate.”

Despite life’s setbacks, leaning on her faith in God and discovering that part of God’s purpose for her life is to share her story. She now readily speaks as schools and organisations encouraging not just those born with a cleft but all young people to embrace their differences. Madge Blignaut is a co-founder of Cleft Friends a project of the Smile Foundation. She oversees the adults and teens support nationally and welcomes every opportunity to share her story as a pillar of hope to all South African’s affected by cleft lip and palate. Cleft Friends has a Whatsapp group that reaches out to adults and teens who were born with cleft lip and palate. If you were born with a cleft lip and palate and would like to connect with others who have lived a similar experience to you feel free to Whatsapp Madge on 063 189 0869.

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This May Cleft Friends is celebrating 10 Years! Whoop! Whoop! If you or your loved one is cleft affected feel free to email your photo and story to us at info@cleftfriends.co.za. We want to share encouraging stories and create awareness about cleft lip and palate in South Africa. You are not alone!

My beautiful daughter was born on the 4 December 2002 with a bilateral cleft lip and palate.

I was six weeks along when I found out I was pregnant. It came as a big surprise as I was currently focusing on getting a job.

Two weeks after finding out I was pregnant I started bleeding heavily and was taken into hospital. There was still a strong heart beat however the doctor did advise me to abort the baby after a week in hospital. I chose to trust in God. I was told she would never make it if I went into normal labour so I trusted in a miracle from God and waited anxiously until my caesar date.

I woke up after my caesar and asked for my baby, they said she was bathing and then she was feeding…I sensed something was wrong. They then came and spoke to me behind a closed curtain saying that something was wrong with the mouth of my baby.

I asked them to see her as I didn’t understand what they were saying. I was in shock as I looked at her. I immediately thought the worst, so I prayed to God asking for strength and phoned my husband to tell him. We at this stage didn’t even know what her condition was called.

I had to rely on feeding her with a syringe and as a new mom you want to breastfeed your baby so you can bond with her, but that was not possible for me. When my little girl was 4 days old we were referred to another hospital closer to my parents, as their help was needed, and this was where her check-ups and operations took place. I started using a syringe and an open mouth of a feeding bottle (I cut the nipple of the bottle teat so that the hole was bigger, this is what I mean by “open mouth of a feeding bottle”). I was reassured to know that she was growing stronger even though it was a challenge to feed her sometimes but after a feed she would laugh and be happy and I knew she was full.

The first operation was repairing the lip at five months. When I first saw her after the operation I was crying tears of joy and also tears seeing her in pain and not been able to do anything to ease it. Second, third and fourth palate operations took place and the fifth one was grommets.

When she eats pap and milk, the milk drips from her nose because she still has a small hole (fistula) in her mouth that still needs to be repaired.

She is a young girl who is talented, likes to draw, do art, things with her hands and singing. I thank God for her.

Keletso (16) dancing at the Parys Flower Festival in October 2018

When I gave birth I already had a name for her, Kesenogile, meaning that God did know about her before she was revealed to us. My mother named her Kelts, meaning a lesson and lastly my sister in law named her Nthabiseng, meaning make us happy.

That is exactly what she does and is: HAPPY.

Jeanette Mpondo
Parys, Free State

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This May Cleft Friends is celebrating 10 Years! Whoop! Whoop! If you or your loved one is cleft affected feel free to email your photo and story to us at info@cleftfriends.co.za. We want to share encouraging stories and create awareness about cleft lip and palate in South Africa. You are not alone!

Steven was born on 29 October 2006 with a unilateral cleft lip and palate.

At the age of 5 months he received his first operation to repair the lip and part of the palate and second one at the age of one year to completely close it.

In 2017 they did a bone-graft, removing bone from his hip to plant into his upper gum to assist with the exposure of the teeth.

And in November 2018, he received his braces.

One day he wants to become an Anaesthesiologist, where he wants to do pro bono work in assisting the Smile Foundation with operations. He has a passion in assisting kids that has gone through and is still going through the same struggles he endured.

With his Youtube channel “Smile Like Me” he wants to achieve a few things:

  • The first thing is to get one ambassador from each school (that was also born with a cleft lip and/or palate) to raise money for Smile Foundation and create awareness for cleft lip and palate patients.
  • Then he wants to be a supporting channel for kids that still needs to go through surgery and treatment through the Smile Foundation.
  • He also experienced being bullied about his looks and he wants to put positive words out there to assist them with this.
  • Last but not least he wants to make sure that they know, nothing must ever stop you in achieving what you want to do or become.

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Anesta – Proud Cleft Mommy
Cape Town, South Africa

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This May Cleft Friends is celebrating 10 Years! Whoop! Whoop! If you or your loved one is cleft affected feel free to email your photo and story to us at info@cleftfriends.co.za. We want to share encouraging stories and create awareness about cleft lip and palate in South Africa. You are not alone!

This story was sent to us by one of our specialized support moms Roza. Roza lives in Bloemfontein and has been trained to be a Cleft Friends support mom, her daughter was born with a cleft palate as well as Pierre Robin Sequence; a rare disease that she explains in her story. If this story reaches parents who are also affected by PRS please feel free to Whatsapp Roza on 082 698 8571. She has a wealth of knowledge from her own lived experience with Lilliana and will be able to connect you with other parents in South Africa who are also facing similar challenges.

“Our journey started just over 4 years ago, a journey that in the beginning felt like it would have no end.  With having a healthy pregnancy our big day arrived to welcome our biggest blessing into the world. Well to our biggest surprise our little Lilliana came with one of the biggest surprises, something that has changed our lives. 

Lilliana was born the 2 July 2014 at 08h20, weighing 3.29kg, a beautiful bush of hair all 10 fingers and toes and what looked like completely healthy.  To our shock after having Lilliana turn a slight blue in colour, the nurse came in asking if I saw that my child had a hole in her mouth. The first thing we did was ask Google…  And well it was the first time that I had ever heard about or even seen a cleft.

That evening Lilliana’s paediatrician arrived and immediately admitted her into NICU, for non-medical terms the NICU is where all premature or babies that are born with a condition of some sort go to. Well here I was a new mother not knowing much about any of this and facing what felt like a one huge mountain to climb.

48hrs after Lilliana’s birth we received the diagnoses: Pierre Robin Sequence. Not only were we dealt with a cleft palate but we were handed a rare disease and something that not many knew of or how to deal with. So we were left to research and to try and find out as much as possible.  Most of you reading this are probably wondering what Pierre Robin Sequence is.

PRS is a rare disease, it consists of a number of abnormalities affecting the head, face, smaller than normal jaw, an enlarged tongue that is placed further back than normal which in turn obstructs a very narrow airway and cleft.

At 4 years old Lilliana, has had to endure more surgeries than most adults.  Her very first surgery was at 11 days old a glossopexy (pulling her tongue forward to help open up her airway), after 2 days later Lilliana managed to pull her stiches loose. At 24 days old her next surgery was scheduled and that was a Mic-Key because Lilliana was struggling to feed.

After 30 long days we were finally discharged and sent home with feeding lines, and an oxygen machine.  All this had become our “normal’’.  Times were tough and yes it was difficult to accept but we managed and survived it. Lilliana’s soft palate repair was scheduled for the 18th February 2015, the operation was successful.

I could carry on with Lilliana’s story for days, if not years and literally write a novel but this is not my intention. 

I want each and every single one of you reading this is to know that yes things may seem tough, yes things may seem difficult but if there are words that I can leave you with, they would be:

Never lose HEART, Never lose HOPE, Never lose FAITH, Never ever GIVE UP. All this does eventually get easier and even in the darkest of times never forget that.”

Roza Sousa Freitas

Bloemfontein, South Africa

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This May Cleft Friends is celebrating 10 Years! Whoop! Whoop! If you or your loved one is cleft affected feel free to email your photo and story to us at info@cleftfriends.co.za. We want to share encouraging stories and create awareness about cleft lip and palate in South Africa. You are not alone!

My name is Vicente Celestino Camarena. My parents named me Vicente Celestino because in Spanish my name has a strong meaning. I am a warrior, a conqueror, and a gift from God. I’ve had a tough journey but with the love and attention of my parents I have the strength and will to surpass anything and everything that may come my way. I was born May 22, 2018, I’ve had numerous appointments and weight check-ups because I was not gaining weight, matter of fact I was losing weight. My parents were stressing out trying to figure out what they were doing wrong but they never gave up on trying new methods and new bottles until they found Dr. Brown specialty bottle and going up on calories on my formula (from 22 calories to 24 calories). Shortly after at three months, I had my lip surgery which from there on I gained weight with no problem, went down on calories, and I didn’t have to use any special bottles. I started with solids at 4 months because I am a hungry little boy and from there on I have been healthy and my doctors’ are so proud of how much progress I have made in such a little time. My parents went from liquidizing my food to eating straight solids. Now, I am like any baby! Just like the meaning of my name, I am a warrior, I am a conqueror, and just like how I went through lip surgery as if nothing ever happened, it’s exactly what I am going to do with my palate surgery that is coming up.

To my fellow cleft parents don’t give up, don’t ever stop trying new methods, stressing out is okay because it means you want the best for your child. Join social media groups just like Cleft Friends because we are all a big family and here to help each other out because at the end of the day we have a similarity, our precious babies affected by clefts are gifts from God.

You are not alone!

Story sent by Layla Pomerino
A proud cleft mommy 🙂

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This May Cleft Friends is celebrating 10 Years! Whoop! Whoop! If you or your loved one is cleft affected feel free to email your photo and story to us at info@cleftfriends.co.za. We want to share encouraging stories and create awareness about cleft lip and palate in South Africa. You are not alone!

Photo Credit: Gerdie de Lange

Milanje is the Cleft Friends cover baby! She was born with a unilateral cleft lip & palate. Her photo has traveled the country as an inspiration of hope for all new families affected by cleft lip and palate. The way her mom, Biance, is embracing her and kissing her wide open cleft speaks about her acceptance and unconditional love for her baby no matter what.

Biance, Milanje and Francois (before op)

“Wow, it was so hard seeing our tiny princess disappear behind swinging doors of the theater with her father. Right then and there my heart broke into a million pieces. Nothing could have prepared us for how amazingly different she actually looked after the operation. Our bonding had to start from scratch. It took me a good two weeks to get used to her new face.” Biance de Villiers, Port Elizabeth, South Africa.

Milanje (4)

We have watched Milanje grow and have walked the cleft journey alongside her family since the day she was born. Milanje has had two cleft surgeries and is now 8 years old. Biance is one of our trained support moms and is hands on with new families, affected by cleft lip and palate, as they start their cleft journey in the Eastern Cape. It was an absolute joy looking back and finding photos of this sweet family since 2011. To see how Milanje is excelling at life and to hear how well she is doing at horse riding is a pure delight. Read more from a post on her school’s Facebook page. She is our very own Cleft Friends cowgirl – YEEEEHAAAA!

Photo Credit: Erika

In mid February 2018 Milanje had her first horse riding lesson at Altona Equestrian Centre, under the amazing hand of Alma Hough. She has always had a love for horses, so this was a dream come true for her. She loved every second. It wasn’t just fun and games, as she had to do exercises to become riding fit and to manage her balance in the saddle. She was very dedicated and did her exercises morning and evening. She has a very close bond with her pony, Peter Pan, who also had to learn all the Western Games with her. He was not the easiest pony, as he was abused badly. He was rescued and given to the centre where she is riding. She loves him very much and he has come a long way too.

This year we registered her with Sanesa (South African National Equestrian Schools Association) where she represents Curro Westbrook during events. She is also registered with the Port Elizabeth Western Mounted Games Club (PEWMG).

In January 2019, she took part in her first Qualifier for Western Mounted Games. She did not place in any of the events during this qualifier. She did however get the award for “Riding the most difficult pony”. Peter Pan did not have a good day. She was very disappointed, but was determined to work harder and try again in Qualifier 2.

On 3 Feb she took part in Qualifier 2. In this event she got a 4th place in Keyhole and also placed 8th overall in her division on Level 0 primary school Sanesa riders. She also won the award for the “Most improved rider.” She is the youngest in her level with the least experience.

On 17 March, she competed in Qualifier 3. During this event she placed 9th overall for Sanesa riders and 7th overall for club riders. She also placed 3rd in the Figure 8 flags game for club riders and 3rd place for Poles II for club riders. She also won the “Most Improved rider”.

On 7 April, she competed in Qualifier 4. She placed 8th overall for Sanesa riders, 4th place in Keyhole for Sanesa riders, and 2nd Place for Keyhole club riders. She got the “Tiny Tot of the day” trophy for being the rider who had a good day in the arena, displayed excellent sportsmanship towards her fellow riders, rested her pony well between games, made sure he had food and water. They call this the Golden Combo.

Milanje will compete in Qualifier 5 on 5 May 2019. She is determined to obtain a 1st position in her game before the qualifiers at the end of July.

Post copied from https://www.facebook.com/CurroWestbrook/ with permission from Biance de Villiers, Milanje’s mom <3 Thank Biance 🙂

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“A Mother’s sin”. This is the title of a book written by Mia Henry of Port Elizabeth. I haven’t read the book, but I heard the author’s interview on local radio when the book was published, and I immediately identified with it. As mothers of children born with congenital defects, we beat ourselves up with the guilt of what we could have done differently to avoid the hardship of hospital admissions, surgeries, therapies and teasing that our children will need to face. This guilt is a Mother’s sin!

My son, Thomas, turns thirteen this year! Thirteen! I wish I could say I wouldn’t have had it any other way, but honestly, the emotional turmoil the last thirteen years have brought have not been easy. My son was born with a soft palate cleft which was not diagnosed until he was four months old. I endured being told by a paediatrician that the quality of my breast milk was the reason my son wasn’t gaining weight to trying every teat on the market to get him to drink more than 25ml in an hour. My son had had seven hospital admissions by the time he was seven years old, for cleft repair, two inguinal hernia repairs, 2 MRI’s, a Baker’s cyst and several sets of grommets. Do not underestimate the toll that these hospital admissions and doctor visits take on your little ones. My boy was a ball of anxiety and still struggles with change, but we have learnt to manage it together.

📷 Jeff Latham photography

Despite these hardships, he has excelled academically at school and represented Nelson Mandela Bay in chess since 2014. In Grade 4 he passed the test for musicality at school and was offered the opportunity to learn to play a musical instrument. He chose the flute! I remember crying when I told the music teacher that he really wanted to play the flute, but I wasn’t sure he would be able to get a sound out because of his cleft palate. She agreed to give him the opportunity. After 8 weeks of trying to get a sound out, she called me to tell me he should probably forget about flute and take up guitar. I asked her to persevere for one more week. She did and at the end of 2019 he achieved 89% for his Grade 2 flute exam with the Trinity board of music.

He is my miracle boy, my pride a joy and this year he enters his teens. A whole new set of changes and challenges, as braces are fitted and high school looms, but the last thirteen years have groomed him into a young man that will be able to overcome any adversity put before him.

Port Elizabeth, South Africa

This May Cleft Friends is celebrating 10 Years! Whoop! Whoop! If you or your loved one is cleft affected feel free to email your photo and story to us at info@cleftfriends.co.za. We want to share encouraging stories and create awareness about cleft lip and palate in South Africa. You are not alone!

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